How Active Listening Can Help Improve a Relationship
Active listening is a skill that one possesses and has developed a specific communication that allows one to fully hear what another person is trying to say. Since listening and communication are essential elements which can help improve relationships, in order for a couple to be successful in their relationship, they must communicate and listen in a meaningful way.
Providing space for the other person to speak will mean that there is willingness in you to refrain from either arguing your case while the other person is stating his/her position or to resist the urge to interrupt and cut off the other person speaking, in doing so, you are giving yourself the opportunity to listen and understand the person’s argument.
Put yourself in the other person’s shoes
By allowing yourself to be in the other person’s shoes, you are actually prioritizing to focus more on the other person’s emotional needs during the dialogue and, doing this, will help you understand better the other person’s perspective, which can help you be an active listener.
Don’t jump to conclusions
When you are in the middle of a dialogue with a person, try as much as possible to avoid making final judgments on the other person because this indicates that you already have a pre-existing belief about the person and that blocks you from doing an active listening and, therefore, you just have to avoid this negative thought by clearing your mind of this preconceived belief and instead focus more on positively resolving your relationship issues.
Conduct proper questioning
After the other person has finished speaking his/her position, conduct proper questioning on some issues that you are not cleared of and do not set a tone of being accusative in order not to give the other person the impression that you are not willing to make it up, but, instead, listen well to the person’s answer so you can digest what is the truth in his/her statements.
Paraphrase what the person says
By summarizing what you heard from the other person, you are just confirming if you heard everything right, which also confirms your being an active listener, due to the fact that as you communicate back the points he/she has made objectively and, in doing so, you have understood clearly the other person’s point of view. Learning how to be an active listener is being an effective communicator, such that when you are in a dialogue to resolve a relationship, by focusing on what the other person is saying will actually allow you to put yourself in a good position to understand more the situation, because when you listen correctly, you also learn more.
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